Life is Fragile, Be Gentle


I don’t know the origin story for this sign. I can only imagine that it was something someone made back in the early 70’s and gave to my parents. I just remember it hanging on the fiberboard walls of my dad’s beloved garage while I was growing up. I can only assume that my mom couldn’t find quite the right place to display it in our house. Or she found it tacky.

But my dad had an appreciation for this sign. It meant something to him. It was hung on those fiberboard walls next to scribblings from family and friends from near and far who were visiting our house for one celebration or another. Dad got a big kick out of having guests sign the wall in the garage to commemorate various celebrations. He was quite the sentimental guy.

Yes, I christened myself the cutest “chic” that ever came here.  I was a brat that apparently couldn’t spell.

I think first and foremost, this sentiment, these words, apply to the important concept of self-care. I think it’s easy to go through our days mentally haranguing ourselves about how we could have done “this”  better, or how we shouldn’t have said “that” to whomever, or that we should have reacted differently in a particular situation. Something I’m trying to do lately is to put my self-defeating thoughts on pause for a moment and ask myself if the negative thoughts about myself would be something I would actually say out loud (or even under my breath) to a close friend. The answer is always, emphatically, “no”.  I think this sign is an excellent reminder to be gentle (aka kind) to oneself.

I also believe if we have any hope of ushering in a kinder, less dysfunctional, society, not only for the benefit of  those of us living in the here and now, but for the generations coming up behind us, we should endeavor to heed these words in our day to day interactions with others, whether they be strangers or friends.

What does this look like for me? I think it’s more what it sounds like, in my case. When I am frustrated with another person because they are jumping on my last nerve, if I’m being honest, these not-so-positive feelings are evident in my tone of voice. If I can be cognizant of this fact, in the moment, I can hit the pause button for a hot second and make the necessary adjustments. I think one simple tool is to slap a smile on my face. Then when I open my mouth to speak again, the words cannot help but come out in a kinder, gentler way.

Tell me, kind and gentle readers, do you think this sentiment has value as I do? If so, what does it look like in your life?

10 thoughts on “Life is Fragile, Be Gentle”

  1. I’m really tough on myself if I make mistakes. I try to flip it round and say “would you give a friend a hard time for doing that?” and the answer is usually no. But in the heat of the moment it’s hard to break away from the learned behaviours if you’re used to beating yourself up when you get something wrong, even just simple mistakes that anyone could make. I’m a teacher, and I’d never treat my students like that, so maybe it’s time I took my own advice 🙂 Thanks for the reminder!


  2. I’m with you: it’s more how I say it rather than what I say, especially with regards to my kids. I never knew I was a yeller until I had twin boys, and once in a while I just let it rip. In fact, one of my guys has asked me not to yell (eek, talk about shaming from an 8-year-old!) so much, so I’m trying. But you’re right, too, that it has to start with being good and kind to ourselves! Nice, thoughtful piece!


  3. Love the sign, especially with its 70s vibe. Groovy.
    I saw a sign at a craft show recently, it said: If you can be anything, be kind. If you can’t be kind, be quiet. 🙂


    1. Me too CJ! I simply had to bring it back to Colorado with me after my dad passed. It’s now got perfect spot, hanging under my vision board in our office. Love that phrase you found too. Good advice!

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  4. I love this, I am very hard on myself, I very rarely think good of myself. The negativity drains my confidence and can affect my mental health. I shout at my kids more then any one else and they are the ones that I love the most. Can be very hard to take that step back and see the positive.. (I’m someone who’s parents will not read my blog, my dad’s comment was he has not got time, he will be dead soon, he is 65 and as far as I know in good health) I think only me can help myself find the good in me, I’m a good person and i know my kids love me as I love them despite my shouting. Thanks for a thought provoking post.


    1. Thank you for your comments! Just try and ask yourself when you’re thinking negative thoughts about yourself, if this would be something you’d say to your best friend. When you realize that the answer is “no” you can flip that switch!

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