What Can We Agree On?

The seed that sparked this post was a comment made recently on one of my blog posts. In that post, I simply stated “Yay-Biden/Harris won”. Now those aren’t fighting words, are they? Yet, another blogger chose to tell me they were glad that I expressed this. Because then they could “block” me.

I found her comment humorous and ridiculous. When I read a blog post and don’t agree with what the blogger is saying, I tend to keep it to myself. Choose in silence to not follow them. It was the first time I can recall that anyone on the interwebs stated they would not follow me because of my political persuasion.

Of course, my response to this blogger was not helpful at all. I said “You do you, Sweetheart!”. That was admittedly snarky of me and later made me feel like a jerk.

But here’s the thing: aren’t we all in this together? Aren’t we all Americans? Aren’t there some basic things we can all agree on?

The extremism is really pissing me off these days.

Yes, I am very pleased that Joe Biden and Kamala Harris will be our next President and Vice President. I think they are earnest and are going to try their best to unite us and enact policies to put us all on a better path. I’m not going to take that back.

But there are almost half of us that don’t agree with that, which of course is their right. But is it helpful that a percentage of those folks are digging in their heels and refusing to acknowledge that Trump really truly lost this election? Doesn’t it make sense for them to put down their weapons, so to speak, and acknowledge reality?

I sure think it does. I’m hoping that they agree with that before long. It’s in everyone’s best interest, regardless of what particular political party they are aligned with.

For those of us on the other side, many of whom were often spouting re: Trump “well he’s not my President” after he was elected in 2016, they need to stop gloating. It is not helpful. While I was unhappy when he got elected, I didn’t go around saying “well, he’s not my President”, because I did not think it was helpful in any way. And it wasn’t the reality.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: this blog is not a political one. It is however, my blog. And since I see my blog as being running commentary of life from my perspective in the here and now, it would not feel right for me to keep my politics completely off the table.

Ultimately, I want to be helpful here. I want to engage with others and lift them up. I want to be radically hospitable and open minded within this blog and in my real day to day life.

So, that leads me to this final question: what do you think we can all, as Americans, agree upon?

I think answering this question is a way to start healing. To start coming together. We have to start somewhere.

I will go first with: I think we can all agree that (more) change is coming in American society, whether we welcome it or not. We are all going to have to accept that. We’re going to have to get off our high horses for the greater good.

5 thoughts on “What Can We Agree On?”

  1. I saw that comment and I’m so glad you decided to write about it. I also saw your response and didn’t think it came across snarky at all — in fact, rather the opposite. I actually admired your ability to shake it off.

    As for your question, what can we agree on? I used to say “we all want the same things but we have different ideas how to get there.” I’m not sure I believe that anymore. Some people are so driven by fear and ego, they’ve lost sight of the common good.
    Sorry if that sounds pessimistic!

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    1. Thank you Christi! I just found it so small minded that anyone would choose to comment that way; as if by doing that I’d change my mind about my politics? People are strange aren’t they? It takes work to stay optimistic these days, doesn’t it? But I believe that good will prevail over evil. We all just need to hang on for what will surely be a bumpy ride.

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  2. If feels like the range of possible common ground has shrunk so much in recent years. I mourn the loss, but I also recognize the challenge, and I know I am done trying to appeal to the goodwill of people who just don’t have it. How to build bridges to those who might be amenable to it? That’s a tough question.

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