Who’s chronically late out there?
I’m pokey. I take forever to get things done. To get my ass in gear.
I know I am not the only one.
My chronic tardiness annoys the hell out of people, especially the Hubs, who is very punctual.
Bless his heart, he’s put up with this for over 33 years.
Virtually anyone who knows me IRL will say that having a relationship with me, the kind where you go places in public together, requires patience.
I’ve become more self-aware in the last year, however, which is why I aim to be purposefully patient when I’m interacting with others. Whether it’s my immediate family, the neighbor I just met in my driveway, or my favorite female friends, I try to pay it back.
Yet, my frequent tardiness causes unnecessary stress. I don’t like feeling like I’m disappointing people. But know this: I’m continually running late not because I don’t value your presence and don’t have a feeling of adrenaline running through me in anticipation of whatever we’re doing together.
I like to think those who know me best sense this vibe coming out of me every which way in these moments and choose to love me anyway.
I believe my chronic tardiness is how I’m wired.
Bear with me here.
I was born late. About 6 or 7 years late, I’d say, based on what my Mom told me often when she was still alive.
I was the baby my parents hoped and tried for, after my sister was born. I just took my sweet time getting here. I was born just a bit over 8 years after her.
It stands to reason that my late arrival into this world has at least something to do with my chronic lateness. It’s a theory anyway. Not an excuse, mind you, but an explanation.
I kid you not: I recently perused my old high school yearbook. On one page, there was what can only be referred to as a rambling mess of inside jokes written by, I imagine, a small group of nerdy yearbook kids. At the end of this “piece” is written “and Rhonda K is still eating lunch”.
That, of course, was me they were referring to.
I read an article on NPR earlier this year about chronic lateness. I found it really interesting, and you may as well. Click here for the link.
According to the article, time is a social construct. How cultures view time varies, though essentially one’s view is either “event” based or “clock” based. I clearly fall more into the “event based” camp. If I tell you I’m going to meet up with you today at 11 a.m., I will meet up with you. I’m never one of those “no show” people. Yet, perhaps largely because I am an American living in the U.S., I understand and appreciate those in the “clock based” crowd.
Would you consider yourself “clock” based or “event” based when it comes to time? And what do you make of it?
While you consider those questions, I hope you take the time to enjoy this “timely” cover of a fantastic pop song by Chicago, “Does Anybody Really Know What Time it Is?”
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